Chicken Soup for the Aging Heart Part IV

You know when you are getting old when you no longer...

# have a favourite color (quoted from kosin)
# look forward to your younger siblings birthdays, as they remind you how old you are.
# look forward to your older siblings/ parents' birthdays, as they remind you that one day (which is pretty soon) you'll be like them.
# look forward to your own birthday, in hope that if you didnt celebrate it, it doesnt count.
# buy Teens/ Teenage/ Seventeen magazines off shelves. You bought Female/ Vogue/ Cleo instead
# borther to follow the trend and change handphones. All we need is a simple smsing and calling function, too many functions confuses us.
# have to read weather forecast cuz your bones are equally reliable.
# watch cartoons and watch drama serials instead, in hope to inject some "drama" into the already stagnant life.
# have to sleep 10hours a day. 6 hours will be enough.
# sleep through the night w/o waking up
# hear your favourite songs on 93.3FM or 98.7FM... but on Class 95.0FM and 97.2FM or even 95.8FM
# shake your head when your mum tunes to oldies. You sang along with her.
# listen much to lyrical songs. Jazz music appeals to you.
# log on to facebook every single day to accept all the nonsensical applications your friends sends you.
# log on to Friendster anymore.
# remember names with faces anymore. For a start, you cant even remember names
# fantasize about the future. Time to get realistic.
# carries a crumpler, but a LV/ Prada bag.
# go out without your makeup
# can get up at 5am like you did in secondary school days.
# think CCAs are essential
# look forward to graduation.


P.S. You would like to think the examples are fictitious.

Chicken Soup For The Heart Theories Part IV

yes, the series is back...

I think i've said a thousand times about letting go of the past.

And i think it has never worked.

Nevertheless... ...

i am trying to make peace with my past,
to stop spoiling the present,
and not jeopardise the future.

The first step begins with clearing the inbox.
the whole idea about keeping past messages started with very naive thoughts
... of seeking comfort in those past words of encouragement
... of trying to prove that my feelings has been reciprocated
... to substantiate that it wasnt just an imagery that i had come up with
... a basis for my long-held beliefs.
And if it had worked, i wouldnt be where i am today.

Making peace with the past comes with acceptance.
Accepting your past decisions...
If given another chance, i know i'll still make the same decision.
It comes with no regrets.

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Chicken Soup For The Heart Part III

"when he/she doesnt do the lovey-dovey stuffs, it doesnt mean he/she doesnt love you"


Drama serials are like fairytales
Tantalising, teary, dramatic love stories.
There is a reason why it is a love-hate relationship with drama serials.

The Situation
Naively
At times we may expect the little acts of love as seen on teevee
and get disappointed when he/she falls short of such "expectations"
and ponders if he/she really loves you.

The Reason
People portray their acts of love differently.
Be it the "we'll get there" talks
Be it the "want come over my house" invitations
Perhaps to him/her, he/she felt he/she had made himself/herself understood.
Like how we like to keep our thoughts/feelings to ourselves, thinking "it's obvious enough"

The Conclusion
things are better off said.

Chicken Soup For The Heart Part II

Nope, this isnt another post about his "drift-aways".
He didnt. Yet to, maybe.

"We'll Get There" Talks

In our "growing up and ageing" process
we would have experienced the "we'll get there" talks.

The situation: One fine day, you and your friend sat down and have a little talk over coffee. Reminiscing the past, procrastinating about the present, fantasizing the future. And your friend started to talk about issues on co-habitation, marriage and retirement life and each ending with a "we'll get there" note.

The reason: i cant really think of any.

Aftermath: The million-dollar question- can we really take the talk seriously?

Chicken Soup For The Heart Part 1

The Book
"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"
- John Gray

I particularly liked John Gray's analysis on why "Men go to their caves" (MN should be able to "appreciate" at the same level as me)
The situation is where he becomes "increasingly distant, forgetful, unresponsive" and "incapable of giving her the attention and feeling he normally gives"
The reason: Unlike the Venusian who sought relief by talking out her problem, a Martian kept it to himself and mulls over it. Or possibly to find themselves where they feel that "too much intimacy robs them of their power" - the need to "regulate" the closeness.
Aftermath: Hopefully a more "rejuvenated and loving" person

I never used to understand this need for his sudden pulling-away and the sudden closeness.
Now that i do, it brings understanding to a deeper level.
And at the very least, in this walk, i'm never alone.

My set of solutions.
My prepared mind and heart.

The toughest has to be the "wait" and the million dollar question to "who/when/how to break the silence"

Bringing myself back to the true reason for this entry:
I foresee it coming soon.